Feeling like shit at the moment, as if everyone who started at the same time as you has overtaken you, both figuratively and literally? Do you come away from practice feeling like you are never going to be good enough? Does it seem like skating comes so easily to everyone else whilst you are spending more time in your ass than on your skates?
Then this post is for you.
You might feel like you are doing really badly, but 90% of the problem is your mental game. You just need to believe in yourself! Have confidence!!
So here are my 10 tips to train your confidence muscle:
1. Relive. Pick one thing you did well and concentrate on it. Remember how it felt when you nailed it. Keep replaying it over and over in your head, It’s a small victory you should be proud of.
2. Ask for help. You may have such a good poker face, your teammates might not notice you’re struggling. They might just reassure you that you’re on the right track, or they might just give you a tip that makes something “click”.
3. Don’t compare yourself to others. Instead, compare yourself now to where you started. Look how far you’ve come! You just do you.
4. Own it. We are each on our own individual trajectory, it doesn’t matter what anyone else’s looks like. It’s YOUR practice, it’s YOUR skills, its YOUR journey. It’s beautiful and awesome and amazing in it’s own right.
5. Relax. The more you think about a skill, analyse it, read about it, break it down and ask for tips about, the less chance your brain will let go and allow your body to just DO it. Just keep trying, even if you fall over and eventually it will happen.
6. Be proud. You are braver than 99% of the population. You had the guts to strap on a pair of skates and throw yourself around a track. How many people do you know that had the ladyballs to do something like that?
7. You are not alone. Almost everyone has felt the same as you at one point or another, just ask your teammates! If not, ask in a forum or on Facebook!
8. Be patient. We all want to be amazing right NOW! Nothing worth having came easy and good things come to those who wait. It takes time to learn rules, for skills to become assimilated and for your muscles to create memory.
9. Observe. Watch your teammates perform a skill and then emulate them, copy them or pretend to be them. Watch when they struggle to learn something and see that they are mere mortals too. No one is born perfect.
10. Crosstrain off skates. Get stronger, get faster, get more agile. Strengthen your heart, lungs and muscles. Work your core, work on your balance. That girl that seems to take to skating like a duck to water? If she never does any work outside practice, whilst you are training like a don, soon you will be snapping at her heels.
Treble Maker 909 xx
(I recently watched a video of a bout I was in from back in May. At the time, I felt like I played really well and was buzzing after. Watching it back, I felt awful! I didn’t see much to to be proud of, all I could see were the times I messed up, and as a result was on a massive “I suck at derby” downer. Then I was reminded that May was months ago and I have – we have – all improved since and that I *did* play well for the level I was at on the day. So I need to take my own advice :):))